Learn how to love yourself first

There are many beliefs in life, many religions, theories and philosophies and although I am not an expert or anything I started to be more interested in some of them. Purely as I want to feel happy, I want to become a person that has got ability to control their thoughts, I want to be able to feel love no matter what, I want to be able to always see the positive even if negative things are happening.

And the reason why I want to do this is to achieve what I want to achieve in life and help others. Yes help others. It is said that you cannot help others unless you help yourself first and love yourself first. That seems to be tricky right but there is definitely some truth in that. I realised after looking more in to this I was doing things wrong in life for a long time. I simply was not introduced to any other way. Everybody deserves to be happy, everybody deserves to feel love and be loved and do whatever they want to do. And so do I.

So I am on a mission to love myself, to put myself first, to build up a positive energy around me and aura that shines miles and miles around me.

Imagine I have to now forget the things I thought all my life, things I heard, I was told, I read. Things that may become beliefs. Changing these beliefs may not take a day or week or a month. It is a process and you have to practice and not give up. I have noticed huge change in one month in my behaviour, reactions and views on certain things however yesterday I had a crisis. So yes, I  can tell it will be a long journey.

Here are some things I am planning to work on:

Don’t care about how you look –  Easier said than done especially in the age of digital world where we see perfect images from thousands of sources. It does not have to mean you stop caring it means you do not take it as seriously. It also means you stop beating yourself up for not being skinny enough, have super long legs, great teeth and so on. I know what I like the most on myself and I will treasure it. I will focus on things I like about myself.

Don’t Compare yourself to others – This is one thing I have to work on probably the most. And I keep saying to myself – comparison is the thief of joy and it could not be said better. You are unique and there is nobody like you. That is already a huge plus right? Why to be like somebody else when you are such a unique jewel? Look at you how many amazing things you have others don’t and how many things you can do that others can’t?

Know your worth – This is a key in relationships, work, life and anything really. You are worth it and you should realise this at all times. Set your value in life. Nobody’s life, value or time is bigger than yours. Do not undervalue yourself just because somebody is trying to do it. You stand behind your beliefs and put yourself on pedestal. That does not mean putting yourself above other people as I believe we are all equal but just do not put yourself down.

Say yes to yourself and learn to say no to others – I am still working hard on this but I guess the last year or two were much better than in the past. I wanted to please everybody. I worked for free on the blog, I met friends even I knew I should rather rest, I did lot of favours when I knew there will be no return and I was just being used. You have to say YES to yourself more. Listen to your body and your intuition. It does not mean you stop seeing your friends or compromise it purely means you say YES yourself more.

Look after yourself – Your body is your temple. Look how much it does for you daily, your legs carry you, your brain functions, it gives you so much joy in life and yet we don’t treat it well. People eat badly, stretch themselves, work too hard and long hours, put lot of stress on their mind and soul and body. Why? It is OK to have a glass of wine or eat bad food at times but why to turn it in a regular thing? I think for me stress is one thing you work on and improve. I slowed down so much in August and I can see how much better I feel. I meditate and spend more time in the parks where I feel recharged. I workout for fun and health but If I do not feel like it I just do not go. I listen to my temple.

Do what you want not what others want – I am trying to get better with this. There is so much expectations from us based on other people. Your parents, your boss, your friends and people around you constantly force something on you. Stop thinking things like “What would mum say if she saw me doing this now”? We constantly do what the society expects from us. I am now not saying to go and become an “outsider” I am talking to do more things you want to do at the time you want to do. Even if it is small things like eating soup for breakfast which I did last week almost every day. I feel that people in UK were always surprised by my breakfast choices LOL and so what. If I feel like missing out on an amazing party I will do it and happily swap it for a cosy evening at home. Just do what you want and trust me you will feel more free than ever.

I simply decided to go with Love. Perhaps it is because I do what I love for living, perhaps it is because I am a mother and I managed to escape the wheel of tiring lifestyle and craziness of two jobs. Who knows? I just feel happier and better and I want to feel like that at all times.

Existuji ruzne formy viry, ruzna nabozenstvi, teorie a filozofie a prestoze se nepovazuju za zadneho experta, zacala jsem se o nektere vice zajimat. Zacala jsem delat veci jako meditace a jsem odhodlana poznat vic sama sebe a poslouchat sama sebe. Chci se stat vyrovnanym clovekem, ktery dokaze kontrolovat sve myslenky, chci citit lasku at se deje co se deje, chci se divat na veci ze spravneho uhlu, i kdyz se to mnohdy zda nemozne.

A pokud si rikate, ze jsem se zblaznila, nezblaznila. Clovek ma dat na sve pocity a je mi dobre, kdyz se pomalu vydavam na cestu sebepoznani a lasky a navic, komu tim skodim? Rika se, ze dokonce pokud chcete pomahat ostatnim, tak musite zacit mit nejprve sam u sebe. Existuje spousta duvodu a teorii a myslim, ze do jednoho clanku se vsechny me myslenky a postrehy v zadnem pripade nevlezou. Kazdy z nas ma pravo na krasny zivot, zivot plny lasky, naplneni, poznani a radosti. A techto veci se dosahe lepe, pokud se mate radi, najdete pozitivni zpusob zivota. 

A tak mam pred sebou misi. Chci se mit rada, chci sebe davat na prvni misto, chci byt ztelesnenim pozitivnim energie a chci aby moje krasna aura zarila na mile daleko a mela pozitivni dopad na vsechny kolem. 

Ale takova mise neni jenom tak. Predstavte si, ze cely zivot vam nekdo neco rika, az tomu zacnete verit. A kdyz to nekomu trvalo roky vam urcite myslenky a nazory dat do hlavy, nestane se prece ze dne za den, ze se jich zbavit a budete se milovat a videt vse ve spravnem svetle. 

A tady je par veci, ktere se budu snazit dodrzovat.

Nereste vzhled do takove miry – Ted se asi pousmejete a reknete si, je to blogerka. Ta by mela brat svuj vzhled v potaz. To ano, ale nehrotit to. Myslim, ze za posledni rok jsem se konecne naucila chodit ven i bez makeupu. Kdyz nechci, nedam si ho. A je mi dobre, citim se hezky i tak. Prestala jsem resit vahu a vycitat si, ze si dam neco “zakazaneho”. A prestala jsem se psychicky trestat za to, ze nejsem dost hubena, dost krasna, nemam dokonalou plet. A vite proc? Protoze mam dalsich x veci, ktere mam dobre. A soustredim se na ty. Jsem za ne rada, delam z nich sve prednosti a ucim se mit rada sama sebe. 

Nesrovnavejte se – S timto porad hodne bojuju a to hlavne v dnesni dobe digitalniho sveta. Vsude na me cihaji dokonale fotografie, dokonale tela, dokonale vse. Ale pomalu si uvedomuju, ze ja jsem unikat. Nikdo neni presne jako ja. Nikdo nema takove vizualni citeni jako ja a najdou se lidi, kterim se libi presne to co ztelesnuju ja. Ti ostatni zase nemaji to co vy. A to ze se srovnavate vam akorat ubira radost z veci kolem. Predstavte si, ze jste treba na dovolene a prozivate absolutni extazi na plazi s koktejlem v ruce a projde kolem vas super fit kocka a vas to zaboli u srdce, protoze ma treba o cislo mensi velikost. No a co? Ten moment vam prave vzal radost z momentalni situace. A pritom treba vubec nevite v kolika vecech jste mozna lepsi nez ta zena. Mate jine prednosti a talenty a tak nedovolte, aby vam nejaka srovnani ubrala ani spetku radosti. 

Vazte si sebe a drzte si svou cenu – Znat svou cenu je velmi klicove ve vztazich, v praci a vubec obecne. Neponizujte se, nedelejte veci zbytecne zadarmo, nenechte se vyuzivat. Ja jsem leta delala na blogu zadarmo, delala lidem otroka, protoze jsem se chtela zavdecit. A k cemu? Pokud pomuzete to je normalni, delat veci z lasky protoze chcete. Ale musite si neustale hlidat svou cenu. Vsichni jsme si rovni a tak se nenechte ponizovat tim, ze vasi hodnotu nekdo nerespektuje. 

Naucte se rikat NE a rikejte ANO sobe – I dneska obcas citim vinu, kdyz nekomu reknu ne. Ale vzdy si reknu, ze v tom pripade sobe rikam ANO. Neznamena, ze jste spatny clovek, kdyz urcite veci odmitnete, ale nejde vsem porad dokola rikat ano na vsechno a vsechny pozadavky. Zatezujete tim sve telo a svou mysl. Tim nechci rict, at se z vas stane sobec, ale jenom vice zvazujte situace. Pokud jste unaveni a reknete kamaradce, ze s ni nepujdete na vino, tak to nevadi. Myslim totiz, ze lepsi spolecnik budete az na pristi schuzce, kdyz budete odpocati. 

Starejte se o sebe – Nase telo je nas chram a presto se k nemu tak nechovame. I kdyz vime, ze je lepsi jist zdrave, dobre spat a zit bez stresu, tak se k nasemu chramu chovame jako odpad. Ja nerikam uplne vypustit vino a nedat si uz nikdy nic smazeneho. Jenom rikam, ze je dobre se o ten nas chram starat. On nam to vrati ve forme energie, zdravi a stastneho pocitu. Uplne nejvetsi jed dnesni doby je stres. Lide jsou prepracovani, nechaji se vytocit a nedaji telu ani moment kvalitniho odpocinku. A to si ten nas chram nezaslouzi. Ja zacala trosku meditovat a cvicim pro pocit. A take chodim na dlouhe prochazky a po kazde z techto cinnosti je mi opravdu dobre. 

Delejte co chcete ne to co se od vas ocekava – “Co by na to rekla maminka/sousedka/sef/ucitelka”? Znate to? Vsichni v nasi spolecnosti maji urcita ocekavani a za ta leta se clovek nauci jakoby delat veci, ktere se spolecnosti jevi jako “normalni”. Zena pripravi cele rodine veceri, i kdyz se ji nechce, je nemocna ci unavena….! Prijde vam pozvanka na party a nechce se vam a stejne jdete, abyste potesili ostatni. Proc? Myslete vic na sebe, mejte se rada a kdyz vas neco ucini v ten moment vic stastnou tak to udelejte. Tim opet nerikam prestat svym dete varit, ale kazdy z nas ma mit urcitou svobodu. A lide by si meli delat co se jim chce. Ja jsem treba minuly i predminuly tyden snidala porad zeleninovou polevku, i kdyz to neni uplne tradicni snidane. No a co? Mela jsem pocit, ze mi v ty rana proste nejvic prospeje. A pak jsem se dovedela, ze je to vlastne jedna z nejlepe zvolenych snidani, jenom to neni rozsireny zpusob. Britove jsou hrozne udiveni pokud clovek snida “trochu jinak”a  bylo mi to vzdycky jedno. LOL

Ja jsem se proste rozhodla se mit vic rada, chovat se k sobe hezky, ke sve mysli a svemu telu. Proc se zbytecne zatezovat spatnym a cernotou. Mozna je to i tim, ze jsem zacala delat praci, kterou miluju, ze mam dite a ve spravny cas vyskocila za prokleteho kolobehu dvou praci a unavneho zivota. Kdo vi. Ale je mi urcite lepe. 

Love Glamazon xoxo 

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  1. Velmi pekne napsane. Je dobre, ze jsi zmirnila a objevila neco, co ti pomaha citit se skvele. Meditace je velmi dobra vec – ja mam Rada skupinovou meditaci – treba Sahaja Yoga.

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