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Learn how to love yourself first

There are many beliefs in life, many religions, theories and philosophies and although I am not an expert or anything I started to be more interested in some of them. Purely as I want to feel happy, I want to become a person that has got ability to control their thoughts, I want to be able to feel love no matter what, I want to be able to always see the positive even if negative things are happening.

And the reason why I want to do this is to achieve what I want to achieve in life and help others. Yes help others. It is said that you cannot help others unless you help yourself first and love yourself first. That seems to be tricky right but there is definitely some truth in that. I realised after looking more in to this I was doing things wrong in life for a long time. I simply was not introduced to any other way. Everybody deserves to be happy, everybody deserves to feel love and be loved and do whatever they want to do. And so do I.

So I am on a mission to love myself, to put myself first, to build up a positive energy around me and aura that shines miles and miles around me.

Imagine I have to now forget the things I thought all my life, things I heard, I was told, I read. Things that may become beliefs. Changing these beliefs may not take a day or week or a month. It is a process and you have to practice and not give up. I have noticed huge change in one month in my behaviour, reactions and views on certain things however yesterday I had a crisis. So yes, I  can tell it will be a long journey.

Here are some things I am planning to work on:

Don’t care about how you look –  Easier said than done especially in the age of digital world where we see perfect images from thousands of sources. It does not have to mean you stop caring it means you do not take it as seriously. It also means you stop beating yourself up for not being skinny enough, have super long legs, great teeth and so on. I know what I like the most on myself and I will treasure it. I will focus on things I like about myself.

Don’t Compare yourself to others – This is one thing I have to work on probably the most. And I keep saying to myself – comparison is the thief of joy and it could not be said better. You are unique and there is nobody like you. That is already a huge plus right? Why to be like somebody else when you are such a unique jewel? Look at you how many amazing things you have others don’t and how many things you can do that others can’t?

Know your worth – This is a key in relationships, work, life and anything really. You are worth it and you should realise this at all times. Set your value in life. Nobody’s life, value or time is bigger than yours. Do not undervalue yourself just because somebody is trying to do it. You stand behind your beliefs and put yourself on pedestal. That does not mean putting yourself above other people as I believe we are all equal but just do not put yourself down.

Say yes to yourself and learn to say no to others – I am still working hard on this but I guess the last year or two were much better than in the past. I wanted to please everybody. I worked for free on the blog, I met friends even I knew I should rather rest, I did lot of favours when I knew there will be no return and I was just being used. You have to say YES to yourself more. Listen to your body and your intuition. It does not mean you stop seeing your friends or compromise it purely means you say YES yourself more.

Look after yourself – Your body is your temple. Look how much it does for you daily, your legs carry you, your brain functions, it gives you so much joy in life and yet we don’t treat it well. People eat badly, stretch themselves, work too hard and long hours, put lot of stress on their mind and soul and body. Why? It is OK to have a glass of wine or eat bad food at times but why to turn it in a regular thing? I think for me stress is one thing you work on and improve. I slowed down so much in August and I can see how much better I feel. I meditate and spend more time in the parks where I feel recharged. I workout for fun and health but If I do not feel like it I just do not go. I listen to my temple.

Do what you want not what others want – I am trying to get better with this. There is so much expectations from us based on other people. Your parents, your boss, your friends and people around you constantly force something on you. Stop thinking things like “What would mum say if she saw me doing this now”? We constantly do what the society expects from us. I am now not saying to go and become an “outsider” I am talking to do more things you want to do at the time you want to do. Even if it is small things like eating soup for breakfast which I did last week almost every day. I feel that people in UK were always surprised by my breakfast choices LOL and so what. If I feel like missing out on an amazing party I will do it and happily swap it for a cosy evening at home. Just do what you want and trust me you will feel more free than ever.

I simply decided to go with Love. Perhaps it is because I do what I love for living, perhaps it is because I am a mother and I managed to escape the wheel of tiring lifestyle and craziness of two jobs. Who knows? I just feel happier and better and I want to feel like that at all times.

Existuji ruzne formy viry, ruzna nabozenstvi, teorie a filozofie a prestoze se nepovazuju za zadneho experta, zacala jsem se o nektere vice zajimat. Zacala jsem delat veci jako meditace a jsem odhodlana poznat vic sama sebe a poslouchat sama sebe. Chci se stat vyrovnanym clovekem, ktery dokaze kontrolovat sve myslenky, chci citit lasku at se deje co se deje, chci se divat na veci ze spravneho uhlu, i kdyz se to mnohdy zda nemozne.

A pokud si rikate, ze jsem se zblaznila, nezblaznila. Clovek ma dat na sve pocity a je mi dobre, kdyz se pomalu vydavam na cestu sebepoznani a lasky a navic, komu tim skodim? Rika se, ze dokonce pokud chcete pomahat ostatnim, tak musite zacit mit nejprve sam u sebe. Existuje spousta duvodu a teorii a myslim, ze do jednoho clanku se vsechny me myslenky a postrehy v zadnem pripade nevlezou. Kazdy z nas ma pravo na krasny zivot, zivot plny lasky, naplneni, poznani a radosti. A techto veci se dosahe lepe, pokud se mate radi, najdete pozitivni zpusob zivota. 

A tak mam pred sebou misi. Chci se mit rada, chci sebe davat na prvni misto, chci byt ztelesnenim pozitivnim energie a chci aby moje krasna aura zarila na mile daleko a mela pozitivni dopad na vsechny kolem. 

Ale takova mise neni jenom tak. Predstavte si, ze cely zivot vam nekdo neco rika, az tomu zacnete verit. A kdyz to nekomu trvalo roky vam urcite myslenky a nazory dat do hlavy, nestane se prece ze dne za den, ze se jich zbavit a budete se milovat a videt vse ve spravnem svetle. 

A tady je par veci, ktere se budu snazit dodrzovat.

Nereste vzhled do takove miry – Ted se asi pousmejete a reknete si, je to blogerka. Ta by mela brat svuj vzhled v potaz. To ano, ale nehrotit to. Myslim, ze za posledni rok jsem se konecne naucila chodit ven i bez makeupu. Kdyz nechci, nedam si ho. A je mi dobre, citim se hezky i tak. Prestala jsem resit vahu a vycitat si, ze si dam neco “zakazaneho”. A prestala jsem se psychicky trestat za to, ze nejsem dost hubena, dost krasna, nemam dokonalou plet. A vite proc? Protoze mam dalsich x veci, ktere mam dobre. A soustredim se na ty. Jsem za ne rada, delam z nich sve prednosti a ucim se mit rada sama sebe. 

Nesrovnavejte se – S timto porad hodne bojuju a to hlavne v dnesni dobe digitalniho sveta. Vsude na me cihaji dokonale fotografie, dokonale tela, dokonale vse. Ale pomalu si uvedomuju, ze ja jsem unikat. Nikdo neni presne jako ja. Nikdo nema takove vizualni citeni jako ja a najdou se lidi, kterim se libi presne to co ztelesnuju ja. Ti ostatni zase nemaji to co vy. A to ze se srovnavate vam akorat ubira radost z veci kolem. Predstavte si, ze jste treba na dovolene a prozivate absolutni extazi na plazi s koktejlem v ruce a projde kolem vas super fit kocka a vas to zaboli u srdce, protoze ma treba o cislo mensi velikost. No a co? Ten moment vam prave vzal radost z momentalni situace. A pritom treba vubec nevite v kolika vecech jste mozna lepsi nez ta zena. Mate jine prednosti a talenty a tak nedovolte, aby vam nejaka srovnani ubrala ani spetku radosti. 

Vazte si sebe a drzte si svou cenu – Znat svou cenu je velmi klicove ve vztazich, v praci a vubec obecne. Neponizujte se, nedelejte veci zbytecne zadarmo, nenechte se vyuzivat. Ja jsem leta delala na blogu zadarmo, delala lidem otroka, protoze jsem se chtela zavdecit. A k cemu? Pokud pomuzete to je normalni, delat veci z lasky protoze chcete. Ale musite si neustale hlidat svou cenu. Vsichni jsme si rovni a tak se nenechte ponizovat tim, ze vasi hodnotu nekdo nerespektuje. 

Naucte se rikat NE a rikejte ANO sobe – I dneska obcas citim vinu, kdyz nekomu reknu ne. Ale vzdy si reknu, ze v tom pripade sobe rikam ANO. Neznamena, ze jste spatny clovek, kdyz urcite veci odmitnete, ale nejde vsem porad dokola rikat ano na vsechno a vsechny pozadavky. Zatezujete tim sve telo a svou mysl. Tim nechci rict, at se z vas stane sobec, ale jenom vice zvazujte situace. Pokud jste unaveni a reknete kamaradce, ze s ni nepujdete na vino, tak to nevadi. Myslim totiz, ze lepsi spolecnik budete az na pristi schuzce, kdyz budete odpocati. 

Starejte se o sebe – Nase telo je nas chram a presto se k nemu tak nechovame. I kdyz vime, ze je lepsi jist zdrave, dobre spat a zit bez stresu, tak se k nasemu chramu chovame jako odpad. Ja nerikam uplne vypustit vino a nedat si uz nikdy nic smazeneho. Jenom rikam, ze je dobre se o ten nas chram starat. On nam to vrati ve forme energie, zdravi a stastneho pocitu. Uplne nejvetsi jed dnesni doby je stres. Lide jsou prepracovani, nechaji se vytocit a nedaji telu ani moment kvalitniho odpocinku. A to si ten nas chram nezaslouzi. Ja zacala trosku meditovat a cvicim pro pocit. A take chodim na dlouhe prochazky a po kazde z techto cinnosti je mi opravdu dobre. 

Delejte co chcete ne to co se od vas ocekava – “Co by na to rekla maminka/sousedka/sef/ucitelka”? Znate to? Vsichni v nasi spolecnosti maji urcita ocekavani a za ta leta se clovek nauci jakoby delat veci, ktere se spolecnosti jevi jako “normalni”. Zena pripravi cele rodine veceri, i kdyz se ji nechce, je nemocna ci unavena….! Prijde vam pozvanka na party a nechce se vam a stejne jdete, abyste potesili ostatni. Proc? Myslete vic na sebe, mejte se rada a kdyz vas neco ucini v ten moment vic stastnou tak to udelejte. Tim opet nerikam prestat svym dete varit, ale kazdy z nas ma mit urcitou svobodu. A lide by si meli delat co se jim chce. Ja jsem treba minuly i predminuly tyden snidala porad zeleninovou polevku, i kdyz to neni uplne tradicni snidane. No a co? Mela jsem pocit, ze mi v ty rana proste nejvic prospeje. A pak jsem se dovedela, ze je to vlastne jedna z nejlepe zvolenych snidani, jenom to neni rozsireny zpusob. Britove jsou hrozne udiveni pokud clovek snida “trochu jinak”a  bylo mi to vzdycky jedno. LOL

Ja jsem se proste rozhodla se mit vic rada, chovat se k sobe hezky, ke sve mysli a svemu telu. Proc se zbytecne zatezovat spatnym a cernotou. Mozna je to i tim, ze jsem zacala delat praci, kterou miluju, ze mam dite a ve spravny cas vyskocila za prokleteho kolobehu dvou praci a unavneho zivota. Kdo vi. Ale je mi urcite lepe. 

Love Glamazon xoxo 

Unconditional Love with Pandora

It would be hard to count how many times I have heard the phrase ” You don’t know what love is until you have a child. Pure and unconditional love forever”. And until last August I did not know what people were talking about, however when my son Liam was born it finally clicked. I felt the type of love that is hard to describe with words.

I must admit, Motherhood is one of the hardest jobs I have ever done and I say it to all mums out there! We deserve a medal for being mums, we should be put on a pedestal and be worshiped. I know I have only been doing this “job” for few months and I still have a lot of years ahead of me but am now experiencing all the first moments with Liam.

It seems we have done so much together already – first Christmas, first snow, first flight, first fashion week and so much more. I took him to our first fashion event when he was only 12 days old and that will always be remembered. There is one special day approaching fast though and that is Mother’s day.

This year it will be myself who sees their child coming with a bunch of flowers, presents and big smile on their face. Obviously for the next few years Liam will need my husband’s help. I remember when I was little our dad would help us with buying presents for mum (or in other words paid for things we pointed fingers at). And as my husbands has learnt over the years he knows I love to pick my own presents (I know not very romantic but it saves time and no need for exchanging things afterword’s).

I also remember so clearly way before I got pregnant that I used to say to my other half ‘do not ever let me to stop being who I am when I have a child’. I was scared of the image of being a tired mum that forgot she loved fashion, heels and great lipsticks. Sometimes it can be hard but I am so happy I am managing to juggle everything. Honestly, when you think about it women do so much. That’s why I was so pleased when PANDORA approached me to be part of their #Do campaign, which is all about celebrating female empowerment. This got me thinking about all the things I still do as a mum: I still love running my blog, still wearing fabulous clothes and even when I feel very tired I try to put on at least a bit of lipstick. It makes me feel good when I am pushing the pram and have had more than a few sleepless nights. Women are strong creatures and I know we can do it all, even when at times it feels really hard.

My first Mother’s Day is really special this year, so I have chosen some special pieces from PANDORA to remember it by. There is nothing nicer than to look at gifts you received and have them connected to a special memory. I want to be able to wear these things forever and what better to choose than an iconic PANDORA Essence bangle with some gorgeous charms. I can sometimes be very classic and traditional when it comes to jewellery, so to compliment this I went with the Essence generosity and Essence love charm. I love to mix different tones of jewellery, so combined the rose bracelet together with silver which went perfectly. I am also a huge fan of cute necklaces and discovered the stunning and symbolic Family Tree necklace – a great piece to be gifted on this special day. I just know I will be able to wear all these items with anything- from my work white shirt to distressed jeans and simple t-shirt and that is what I am all about when it comes to style- timeless elegant and versatile!

Myslim, ze by pro me bylo tezke zpocitat kolikrat jsem slysela pred tim nez jsem se stala mamou tuhle vetu: ” Nevis, co je skutecna laska do te doby nez mas sve vlastni deti”. A do te doby jsem to nejak nechapala. Dnes uz tomu rozumim a zcela s tim souhlasim. Je to bezvyhradna laska, ktera se tezce da popsat slovy. 

Materstvi je ale zaroven nejtezsi prace, kterou jsem kdy delala a kazda mama si zaslouzi obrovskou medajli. A myslim, ze ani tatinci to nepochopi. Jenom mamy. I kdyz mam za sebou pouze sest mesicu, teto tezke “prace” tak mam pocit, ze toho mame za sebou tolik. Prvni Vanoce, prvni snih, prvni modni udalost a Fashion week. Liamka jsem si vzala na prvni modni akci, kdyz mu bylo dvanact dnu. A na to nikdy nezapomenu. Byla jsem pekne na nervy, hormony se mnou cloumaly, ale nakonec jsem si to uzila a mam na to krasnou vzpominku. 

Zive si tak vzpominam, ze dlouho predtim nez jsem otehotnela jsem manzelovi rikala, at mi nikdy nedovoli, aby me materstvi zmenilo. Myslim v tom slova smyslu, ze se nebudu o sebe starat a ze zmaminovatim. To byla moje nocni mura, ze bych se mela vzdat mody, krasnych botu a oblibenych rtenek. Je to narocne, ale jsem rada, ze se snazim, abych zvladla vsechno. Kazda takova vec mi totiz udela radost. Kdyz mam za sebou neprospanych noci a tlacim kocar, tak dat si na rty novou rtenku me zase povzbudi. Zkratka to jde. 

A tentokrat nas ceka nase dalsi prvni udalost a to den Matek. Tento rok a i ty dalsi jsem konecne ja ta druha, opevovana a obdarovana a Liamek ten, kdo mi s usmevem na rtu prinese darek ci kyticku. No vzpominam si na detstvi, ze obdarovaval (jinymi slovy platil) spis tatinek a ja a sestra jsme tak mozna ukazaly prstem, co si pro mamku predstavujeme, ale to nevadi. Muj muz vi, ze stejne se me musi vzdy zeptat, co presne chci. Ja radsi neco co opravdu chci, nez spatne prekvapeni. LOL A tento rok je poslu pro darek do Pandory

Mam rada, kdyz se po case na veci podivam a mam je spojene s prilezitosti a vzpominkou a to si preju prave letos ke svatku matek. A taky je krasne, kdyz je za darky i symbolika. Napriklad tento privesek rodinny strom je krasna symbolika a k teto prilezitosti jako delany. A jelikoz mam rada klasiku, tak nesmim zapomenout na ikonicky naramek a tyhle dva koralky – Essence generosity a Essence love. Skromnost mi moc nejde co? Kazdopadne se tyhle kousky budou hodit k tolika vecem, at uz treba k vice formalni bile kosily nebo kozene bunde a roztrhanym dzinum. Mam rada veci, ktere se daji dobre kombinovat a neomezuji me. 

At uz si prejete jakykoli darek, snad bude Den Matek a i ty dalsi svatky nezapomenutelne. 

Love Glamazon xoxo 

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