5 things that motherhood taught me

Motherood is something so natural to human kind and yet it can shake us in many shapes and forms. It is something that comes and we just learn on the way as we go with support and help with those around us.

Well, if it is natural why can it be so hard to figure out what to do? Why some of us can struggle at the start or even later when our little ones are no longer that little? Why aren’t we sometimes sure about what to do even there are so many books, articles and we are being bombarded with information? Well the thing is it is never black and white and there are tons of opinions out there.

However as you go and your baby is growing, you learn and you find a way. There are many lessons that you will come across and you will find out some incredible and some less incredible things about yourself. So here is more about what motherhood taught me and showed me.

  1. Love – I heard that before so many times from people around us, from my own mother … the love for your child is unconditional and the type of love you can only experience  once you are a parent. It is that sort of love that even if you get few hours for yourself you keep scrolling through pictures of your child when they aren’t with you (Yep and never thought I would be that person). However, it does not mean you will click with your baby straight away. I heard so many stories when women felt the bond right after the birth but I didn’t. It took me few weeks so it is ok when you do not feel exactly how the world expects you to.
  2. Strenght – You will find out you are much stronger than you ever knew. Before I had Liam I thought I am tough and I can work hard however motherhood is a new level of everything. It is not just having two jobs and work 14 hours a day. It is non stop and different level of responsibility. There were times when I had 2 hours of sleep few days in a row, I had probably poo in my hair and on my face and I was trying to write and create content and also cook dinner for my husband and I was on the edge of losing it. There were times when I thought if somebody isn’t gonna come through the door and help me I will faint but I made it. I always made it and I am proud of it.
  3. Looking after yourself is more important than ever – You honestly will have the most surprising moments that will be nasty, filthy and can come out of nowhere. I had that just yesterday walking from a meeting wearing Gucci tights, cute designer bag and feeling good and then your child gets sick and it is everywhere his clothes, your clothes, buggy but then I was like at least I look good and he is ok. I laughed it off. However, it really has been researched that how you look really affects how you feel. If you workout, look after your skin and wear nice clothes it increases your confidence and everything around that. World just seems nicer with a cute lipstick on.
  4. It is Ok to ask for help – It is normal that you need time off, you need another pair of hands and it is fine to ask for help. To be fair I still work on this. Partially I feel guilt and I feel obliged to a person that helps me and partially I am a control freak. I have always felt I prefer to do things on my own. I know this is wrong as we all need help but that is my own personal issue to be fair. However, just because I have issues with it doesn’t mean you should have so accept help that is offered by family or friends. You need  it and you need time off as we rarely get that.
  5. Everything is just a phase – I cannot count how many times I have heard this and it is true. It helps so much to get through the tough times whether that is issues with breastfeeding, first illness, colic, tantrums and every other issue you will probably have to face. You will always get through it and then find a way and then just when you feel you have mastered it something new appears. However, it is all ok as it just a phase. Even when Liam will have girlfriend issues I will have to accept it as a phase LOL.

Motherhood is hard but wonderful and it will teach us many things along the way but remember you are strong, stay away from discussion forums or asking too many people for advice as it can get very confusing. You just have to listen to your intuition and go with the flow. You got this one.

Materstvi je neco, co je nam prirorezeneho a presto muze otrast v zakladech kazdou z nas. Je to zkratka neco, co se ucime behem celeho procesu za podpory naseho okoli, rodiny a kamaradu. Dostavame lekce za pochodu a nekdy jsou velmi necekane. 

A tak se sama sebe obcas ptam, kdyz by to pro nas melo byt vse tak prirozene, proc se tak casto ztracime a nevime jak na urcite veci? Ja jsem treba mela krusnejsi zacatky a nevedela si rady a vsechny ty informace kolem mi akorat davaly zabrat. Problem je v tom, ze to nikdy neni cerne a bile a nikdy nic neni spravne a spatne a clovek se v te zaplave informaci proste ztrati. 

Pozdeji vsak zjistite, ze nejlepsi je spolehat se na vasi intuici a ze jak dite roste, ucite se svym zpusobem. Ceka vas tolik lekci a postupne se o sobe dozvite nove a nove veci. Nektere jsou super a jine uz mene. A tak se s vama podelim o to. co jsem se zatim v materstvi naucila a zjistila ja. 

  1. Novy typ lasky – To ze materska laska je uplne neco jineho a nepopsatelneho jsem slysela tolikrat, ale clovek na to opravdu prijde az se stane rodicem. Je to nepodminena laska, ktera nema hranice a pro sve dite bude kazda mama dychat do posledniho konce. Je to takovy typ lasky, ze i v momente, kdy vite, ze potrebujete byt sama a podari se vam to, tak si prohlizite roztomile fotky sveho ditka (a nikdy bych nerekla, ze budu patrit do teto skupiny). Neznamena to, ze tyto pocity vam naskoci od prvniho momentu. Ja to tak nemela a nechapala jsem co je se mnou spatne, ze necitim materske pouto od prvniho dotyku hned po porodu. Hormony se mnou cloumaly jako silene a prestoze spousta zen o tom asi moc nemluvi, ja jsem zacala materske pouto citit asi az od tretiho mesice. Od te doby se hodne zmenilo a moje laska k Liamovi roste a roste kazdym dnem. 
  2. Mam obrovskou silu – Diky materstvi jsem zjistila, ze jsem strasne silna. Vzdy jsem o sobe vedela, ze jsem dric, ze hodne vydrzim, ale byt mamou je uplne neco jineho. Mela jsem stavy, kdy jsem mela pravdepodobne hovinka ve vlasech I na obliceji a prezivala asi na dvou hodinach spanku denne a do toho jsem se snazila psat, vydavat nejaky obsah, varit veceri, prat a vse kolem a presto jsem to vzdy vydrzela. Obcas jsem citila, ze jestli nekdo nevkroci do naseho domu a nepomuze mi, ze se sesypu a vzdy jsem to vydrzela. Je to uplne jina zatez nez mit dve prace a delat treba 14 az 15 hodin denne a presto to vzdy vydrzite. A jsem na sebe za to pysna. 
  3. Je dulezite se o sobe starat – V materstvi vas cekaji prekvapeni a velmi casto ne moc vonave. Prekvapi vas tak, ze nestacite rict svec. A zrovna to jsem zazila vcera. Sla jsem si ze schuzky, ktera dopadla dobre, citila jsem se skvele na sobe puncochy od Gucciho a hezkou designerskou kabelku a v tom hodil Liam takovou savli a ze to bylo vsude…moje obleceni, jeho obleceni kocarek, ale byl v poradku a to je hlavni. A tak jsem si dal kracela ve svych pozvracenych Gucci puncochacich a vlastne se i zasmala, ze se ani nic nestalo. Takove momenty by nemely zadnou z nas zastavit a rict si, ze stejne mi to dite zaspini, pozvraci, pokadi. Opravdu je dokazane, ze kdyz je clovek upraveny, vse se v jeho mysli meni, zvysuje se sebevedomi a citite se lepe. Ja to rikam porad, ze vse jde lepe s hezkou rtenkou.
  4. Je to v poradku, kdyz mate pomoc – Vsichni potrebujeme obcas pomoc a v dobe, kdy mate male dite tak asi vic nez kdy predtim. Ja mam trosku takovy problem, ze  kdyz mam pomoc, citim se provinile. Pokazde se ptam, zda to tomu cloveku nevadi a tak nejak s tim bojuju. Ale obcas je to treba, takze pomoc  neodmitejte a neuzirejte se jako ja. Je to normalni, ze chcete mit cas na sebe a treba si cist, zajit si zacvicit nebo proste vypnout.  
  5. Vsechno je jenom obdobi/faze – Nedokazala bych ani spocitat kolikrat jsem tohle slysela a ono je to skutecne tak. At uz je to kojeni, kolika, prvni nemoc, obdobi vzdoru vse je jenom faze. A az se s tim srovnate, prijde neco noveho. Musime se zkratka porad adaptovat a neco menit. A myslim, ze takovych obdobi jeste bude. Ale clovek si musi vzdy rict, ze je to dalsi etapa a ta prejde. Treba az bude Liam resit holky, budu se tim zase muset utesovat. LOL

Materstvi je narocne, ale zaroven je uzasne a naucite se tolik veci, ktere by vam zivot mozna nikdy neukazal. Idealni je se drzet daleko od skupin pro matky, diskuznich for a take se ptat hodne lidi na nazor. Vsechno toto akorat mate mamam hlavy. Nejlepe je poslouchat svou intuici a ridit se pocitem. Proste to vzdy vsechno zvladneme.

Eva x

The real reason behind negativity on Social media

Wearing: Boots: Givenchy, Bag: Chanel, Trousers: Allsaints, Cardigan: Zara, Hat: Asos

Social media is quite new world. Yes it has been around for several years but it is not something people had centuries before. And that means spreading news and information is going faster than before. What people have always had was variety of behaviours, certain type of characters and understanding of good and bad. And even hundreds years ago we had wonderful leaders and philosophers that inspire the world even in these days. Thanks to them we now have incredible knowledge about balance of life, law of attraction, how to find what our purpose of life is.  Those amazing quotes are now so much easier to spread thanks to media and social media and these days we are surrounded by knowledge gathered over many years. There are so many amazing books about things like law of attraction or about the path of your life.

And we are lucky and I am lucky as we now understand so much more about certain behaviour and why people act in a certain way whether that is a negative comment or their actions. As we come to this world and we grow up until early teen years we absorb everything that is being said, we absorb patterns from parents and close family, we create our own image of the world. Unfortunately during this period we create blocks that influence how we react to certain things for the rest of our lives and we can also subconsciously attract these things repetitively. And from a pure person that came to this world is now a brand new person full of prejudices and ideas that they gained based on their environment.

And that leads me to explaining why people would be negative in life or on social media. That explains those negative comments. It is people that absorbed certain patterns and created blocks during early years of their lives. The thing is it does not have to be just a negative comment but it can simply be an opinion. If you hear a lot as a child that rich people only got to their wealth by fraud you will assume that about most rich people, if you hear that age should define what you wear that is what you believe. We have ideas about money, looks, behaviours, food and everything you can think of. However, it does not mean that what was passed on to you is right. Somebody gave you that idea and it stuck and now millions of opinions and different points of view are circulating around social media and turning into negative comments, hate and more. Instead of spreading love, positive energy and joy we see total opposites.

What it means is that it is only somebody’s point of view and their beliefs and it has got nothing to do with you. It is that person’s personal view and there is not much they can do about that until they decided to change it themselves. We all can work on balancing our lives, spread only the good, stop being judgmental and trust me it is hard work. No matter how many books I read about this topic even I am influenced so much by things I was being told for years. Whatever somebody says about you or does to you has got nothing to do with you at all. It is them and their inner believes. So next time somebody tells you you are materialistic, stupid, ugly, fat, old or whatever it is. Remember, it is not you…it is them. You are only a mirror to them and that triggers their behaviour. If somebody has got an issue that some Youtuber bought another expensive bag it only shows something about that person commenting. It can be anything that they believe in and picked up during the years whether a thought that expensive bags are not achievable, that expensive things ruin character….whatever it is. You are the mirror and the comment is the reflection.

I am very lucky that when I forget this and a bad comment appears I discuss this with my best friend. She is such a smart person that she always reminds me of this and says always something so relevant that I cannot argue and always admit it has got nothing to do with me. The main thing is that negativity on social media has got nothing to do with you.

We all have the right to express and opinion but this is more message for those who receive or encounter negative situations, comments that it is has nothing to do with them.

Svet socialnich medii je docela nova zalezitost, ano uz par let je nasi soucasti, ale jako takovy neexistoval pred stovkami let. A diky tomuto svetu se dneska informace siri mnohem rychleji. Co tu ale bylo vzdy jsou lide ruzneho charakteru, ruzna chovani, ruzne nazory a take schopnost vnimat dobro a zlo. A kdyz se na to tak podivam tak po celou dobu pokazde existovali velmi chytri filozofove a vudci, kteri dokazali inspirovat a predavat svetu jejich znalost. Dnes kdyz ctu knizky o vecech jak najit sam sebe, jake je moje poslani, zakon pritazlivosti, tak je ve vetsine z nich pouzito tolik starych mot a hlasek. A vlastne i ty se siri diky socialnim mediim obrovskou rychlosti a muzou nam pomoci v kazde zivotni situaci. 

Ja mam to stesti a vy take, ze dneska uz muzeme konecne pochopit, proc se urciti lide chovaji jistym zpusobem, proc se nekdo chova spatne, slovne ublizuje nebo treba necha nekde na Instagramu negativni komentar. Kdyz se clovek narodi, narodi se cisty, bez predsudku nazoru ci strachu. To se bohuzel meni a jak deti rostou tak do urciteho veku, dejme tomu do nejakeho obdobi puberty nas opravdu hodne ovlivnuje nase blizke okoli, ktere nam predava sve predsudky, nazory a vzorce. A tak vznika uplne jina osoba, ktera si sebou nese ruzne bloky ulozene nekde v podvedomi, ktere ovlivni dalsi chod zivota a take to jak na urcite veci reaguje. A dalsi veci, kterou si clovek odnese jsou ruzne “mylne” nazory. To co je nam opakovano a vkladano, tomu jednoho dne zacneme verit a to pro nas bude ta nase pravda. A to ze o tom pisu neznamena, ze ja jsem perfektni. Jako kazdy mam sama co delat, ma spoustu bloku a take opakujicich se veci, ktere se mi budou porad dit, dokud neprijdu na to proc. 

A to me vede k tomu vysvetlit proc je tolik lidi na socialnich mediich negativni a proc nekdo zanechava takovy a takovy komentar. Kazdy z nich vlastne ukazuje sam sebe, predstavuje jejich prebrane nazory a stare vzorce a neni to nic jineho. Vy jim pouze nastavujete zrcadlo. Takze to co nekdo napise se vas vubec netyka. Jenom to vypovida o dane osobe a co si sebou z rannych let vzal. Kdyz vam jako diteti nekdo bude porad opakovat, ze kazdy bohac zbohatl zlodejinou a podvodem, tak uz tomu budete verit cely zivot. Kdyz vyrostete v prostredi, ze vek ma definovat to co nosite, tak tomu budete i verit. A tak na socialnich siti cirkuluje tolik ruznych nazoru, komentaru at uz pozitivnich ci negativnich, ale cokoli je vysloveno ci napsano vzdy jenom odrazi osobu, ktera to pise. Jak rika pan Jaroslav Dusek – Mne se to netyka. Sama s tim obcas bojuju a neni to jednoduche si to rict ve vsem pripadech, ale kdyz se opravdu zklidnite a zapremyslite o tom, zjistite, ze to tak opravdu je. A to je takova zprava pro ty, kterych se to tyka. Kdyz ma nekdo problem s tim, ze mate dalsi novou designerskou kabelku, neni to vas problem. Vy jste obraz v zrcadle a onen komentar je jenom odraz a tento odraz ma toho cloveka vest dal. Ma se zeptat sam sebe, proc mi to vadi, proc me toto chovani vyvadi z miry a neco s tim delat. 

Vsechno je proste jenom neci nazor, jejich vira a presvedceni a s vama to nema nic spolecneho. Kdyz vam nekdo rekne, ze jste hlupak, tak to svedci jenom neco o te dane osobne a vas se to netyka. Je to jenom nazor a vlastne pokud se dany clovek nerozhodne sam s tim neco udelat, vy moc nezmenite. Kazdy se musi rozhodnout sam. Je to o tom zit zivot v balancu, sirit dobro a lasku a prestat soudit ostatni. Verte mi, ze je to obrovska prace a takova nekonecna cesta. Ja mam treba tyden, kdy si vedu dobre a pak se mi stane neco a mam treba hodne negativni den, ktery me strhne zpet na spatnou cestu. A prestoze ctu knihy na toto tema, i ja jsem ovlivena vzorci z detstvi. Jedno je ale jasne, ze to co o vas nekdo rika s vama nema co delat. Takze kdyz vam nekdo rekne ci napise, ze jste materialista, hlupak, tlusty, stari nebo cokoli je to jejich vnimani sveta. Nejste to vy, ale oni…..

Obcas se taky zaseknu a kdyz mi nekdo napise nazor, ktery treba nevnimam podobne, ci mi nekdo zanecha negativni komentar. Ale nastesti mam svou nejlepsi kamaradku a ta mi vzdy pripomene jak to vlastne je. Pokazdne mi rekne neco tak trefneho, ze musim ten komentar hodit za hlavu i kdybych nechtela. Hlavni veci je, ze vam predhazovana negativita na internetu se vas proste netyka. 

Eva 

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3 Charlotte Tilbury Lipstick You Will Love

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This has to be one on my favourite lipsticks ever if not the most favourite. I bought it few years ago and it was my first ever lipstick by Charlotte Tilbury. I still love it the same. To be frank the whole collection of the Matte Revolution range has got so much to offer. This shade is stunning and in my eyes works perfect for day and night. It has been inspired by Grace Kelly and pinky coral shade creates perfect, neutral yet colourful lips to compliment variety of outfits.

Tento odstin musi byt snad moje nejoblibenjsi rtenka. Byla to moje prvni rtenka od Charlotte Tilbury, kterou jsem si sama pred par lety koupila. A mam ji rada stale stejne. A vubec cela kolekce Matte Revolution ma nekolik krasnych odstinu. Tento odstin je inspirovany Grace Kelly a je to takova kombinace koralove a ruzove barvy. Co mam na ni uplne nejradsi je to, ze se hodi na den i vecer. Nosim ji casto v kabelce, protoze je takovy odstin, ktery vam dam jistotu a neslapnete s nim vedle. 

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Can Influencers Still Create Something New On Social Media?

The world of digital influencers is like a bubble. Girls and boys posing for that immaculate picture and the bar has been set so high that we can barely see it these days. The blogging content moved from pictures from your garden which mum took to photoshopped professionally taken shots from the hotspots like LA, Santorini, Finland and you can name it all.

And the pool of influencers is growing every day and I am thinking how is it even possible. As it is very very hard work. I have been doing this for years and pretty much previously I had always two jobs and now I am a mom so I have two jobs again. And whilst others were having fun I was there after work, weekends creating content so I can publish a post every day. That is some level of commitment. Sometimes I admire the quality of content I see out there as it does not come easy. No matter what anybody says it is bloody hard work.

The question is can any of us create anything new? They always say yes there is a room for a new influencer (of course there is) but you have to bring something new. It has to be interesting taste, point of view, new voice. I am always thinking but I thought the market is covered for that. We have the glamorous girls, the mums, the fabulous writers, we have the awesome travel bloggers that can take better shots on their travels than Mario Testino for Vogue Cover, we have the fun girls from next door and I can think of so many other examples in my head.

One advice the top people in this industry would tell you is to stay yourself. And then you just keep coming across almost identical feeds on Instagram. That is clearly not staying yourself or am I wrong? I feel the problem may be that once some people see certain strategy works for one they apply it to their content in the hopes to achieve the same level of success. And then we end up having thousands of similar images, captions, outfits and just simply everything. Those people that found something unique for example their image editing, how they pose, how they write at early stages of blogging are flying now.

A great example of unique and new still exists though. A good example would have to be the Triplets. They only started recently and their engagement is up in the sky. I do not blame the world with being obsessed with them as I am myself. I mean common identical triplets that are gorgeous and have fantastic view of beauty and how they take their images.  But what about those solo people like myself what can the rest bring to table that does not exist yet?

I really wish I had more straightforward answer. I just look at it from a different point of view. There are apparently 800 million users of Instagram and even if we would say 50 % of those are active accounts there is a massive pool of people to find what they like. I simply believe that staying yourself is the key as only then you can offer the unique side of you (and there is nobody like you) and there will always be people that love that. You may not have immaculate images and still make it in the industry. It could be how you curate your Instagram stories, it could be your amazing hair, your fitness routine. There has to be a big group of people that can relate and love that. It is now just them to find you and that is in the hands of Universe.

Svet influenceru je takova nase bublina, mame svuj svet a tam proste jsme. Holky a kluci po celem svete pozuji jako o zivot, at maji zase dalsi dokonalou fotografii na instagram a uroven se zvedla tak vysoko, ze uz neni ani mozne jit vyse (nebo snad ano)? Blogovani se posunulo o velky kus z dob, kdy se holky fotily u plotu na zahrade a dnes vidime profesionalne nafocene fotografie z popularnich a luxusnich mist jako LA, Santorini, Finsko a vubec vsechna mista, ktera jsou momentalne in.

A ta nase bublina se pekne rozrusta kazdy den, az si rikam jestli je to mozne. To chce byt opravdu kazdy bloger? Ono je to totiz moc prace, ja to delam roky a pamatuju si kolik jsem tomu obetovala, hodne driny a zadny volny cas. Zatimco nekdo paril nekde na party, ja pripravovala o vikendech a po vecerech clanky na cely tyden. To uz je nejaka obet. Obcas se koukam kolem a rikam si klobouk dolu lidi, protoze ty obsahy jsou tak dokonale a to neni jenom tak. 

Otazkou je, zda muzeme jeste prinest neco noveho? Pokazde kdyz padne otazka, zda ma cenu jeste zacinat, tak kazdy rika ano ( a myslim, ze ano), ale za tim vam vetsina odpovi, ze musite prinest neco noveho. Ale co to vubec je? Je jeste neco, co nebylo pokryto a co svet influenceru nenabidl? A pokud to ono existuje, co to je? Mame dokonale holky, mame holky od vedle s kteryma je sranda, mame mamy blogerky, uzasne travel blogery, kteri dokazou zachytit svet kolem na fotografii lepe nez Mario Testino obalku na Vogue. Napada me tolik veci, ktere uz v nasem svete najdete v nekolika klonech. 

Vetsina lidi, kteri jsou v teto oblasti neuspesnejsi vam reknou, ze klic uspechu je v tom byt sam sebou. Coz se mi trosku nejde dohromady s faktem, ze Instagram je zaplaveny tim samym obsahem. Myslim, ze kdyz jeden influencer vidi, ze urcity styl psani a fotek prinasi tem ostatnim uspech, daji se tim stejnym smerem za vidinou stejneho uspechu. A ti kteri opravdu zacali hned v pocatku s necim novym jsou dnes za vodou. 

Ale misto pro nove veci tady urcite je a porad najdete nove unikatni veci. Jako dobry priklad mi prijdou the Triplets. Jsou to jednovajecne trojcata, ktere zacaly teprve nedavno, myslim, ze rok a pul zpet a dari se jim skvele. Ale vubec svet socialnich medii v tomto pripade chapu, jsou krasne, jsou to trojcata a maji skvely cit pro krasu. Jsou proste cool a samotnou me bavi. Ale co solo influenceri jako treba ja? Muzeme prinest neco noveho, jineho, neokoukaneho? 

Ja se na to zacinam divat trosku jinak, ze misto je tu opravdu pro vsechny. Instagram ma udajne 800 milionu uzivatelu a i kdyby jenom pulka byla aktivni, je to porad obrovske mnozstvi lidi a kazdy ma rad zcela jine veci. Nemusite mit avatarove fotografie a posledni model od Diora. Treba mate zajimave Insta stories, nebo lidi zaujme vas zivotni pribeh, pohled na svet nebo jenom vase vlasy. Takze pokud opravdu budete sami sebou (jenom tak se muzete odlisit od odstatnich), existuje spousta lidi, kterym se bude vase tvorba libit. Je to jenom otazka toho, aby si k vam nasli cestu a to je asi v rukou Vesmiru. 

Eva x