The real reason behind negativity on Social media

Wearing: Boots: Givenchy, Bag: Chanel, Trousers: Allsaints, Cardigan: Zara, Hat: Asos

Social media is quite new world. Yes it has been around for several years but it is not something people had centuries before. And that means spreading news and information is going faster than before. What people have always had was variety of behaviours, certain type of characters and understanding of good and bad. And even hundreds years ago we had wonderful leaders and philosophers that inspire the world even in these days. Thanks to them we now have incredible knowledge about balance of life, law of attraction, how to find what our purpose of life is.  Those amazing quotes are now so much easier to spread thanks to media and social media and these days we are surrounded by knowledge gathered over many years. There are so many amazing books about things like law of attraction or about the path of your life.

And we are lucky and I am lucky as we now understand so much more about certain behaviour and why people act in a certain way whether that is a negative comment or their actions. As we come to this world and we grow up until early teen years we absorb everything that is being said, we absorb patterns from parents and close family, we create our own image of the world. Unfortunately during this period we create blocks that influence how we react to certain things for the rest of our lives and we can also subconsciously attract these things repetitively. And from a pure person that came to this world is now a brand new person full of prejudices and ideas that they gained based on their environment.

And that leads me to explaining why people would be negative in life or on social media. That explains those negative comments. It is people that absorbed certain patterns and created blocks during early years of their lives. The thing is it does not have to be just a negative comment but it can simply be an opinion. If you hear a lot as a child that rich people only got to their wealth by fraud you will assume that about most rich people, if you hear that age should define what you wear that is what you believe. We have ideas about money, looks, behaviours, food and everything you can think of. However, it does not mean that what was passed on to you is right. Somebody gave you that idea and it stuck and now millions of opinions and different points of view are circulating around social media and turning into negative comments, hate and more. Instead of spreading love, positive energy and joy we see total opposites.

What it means is that it is only somebody’s point of view and their beliefs and it has got nothing to do with you. It is that person’s personal view and there is not much they can do about that until they decided to change it themselves. We all can work on balancing our lives, spread only the good, stop being judgmental and trust me it is hard work. No matter how many books I read about this topic even I am influenced so much by things I was being told for years. Whatever somebody says about you or does to you has got nothing to do with you at all. It is them and their inner believes. So next time somebody tells you you are materialistic, stupid, ugly, fat, old or whatever it is. Remember, it is not you…it is them. You are only a mirror to them and that triggers their behaviour. If somebody has got an issue that some Youtuber bought another expensive bag it only shows something about that person commenting. It can be anything that they believe in and picked up during the years whether a thought that expensive bags are not achievable, that expensive things ruin character….whatever it is. You are the mirror and the comment is the reflection.

I am very lucky that when I forget this and a bad comment appears I discuss this with my best friend. She is such a smart person that she always reminds me of this and says always something so relevant that I cannot argue and always admit it has got nothing to do with me. The main thing is that negativity on social media has got nothing to do with you.

We all have the right to express and opinion but this is more message for those who receive or encounter negative situations, comments that it is has nothing to do with them.

Svet socialnich medii je docela nova zalezitost, ano uz par let je nasi soucasti, ale jako takovy neexistoval pred stovkami let. A diky tomuto svetu se dneska informace siri mnohem rychleji. Co tu ale bylo vzdy jsou lide ruzneho charakteru, ruzna chovani, ruzne nazory a take schopnost vnimat dobro a zlo. A kdyz se na to tak podivam tak po celou dobu pokazde existovali velmi chytri filozofove a vudci, kteri dokazali inspirovat a predavat svetu jejich znalost. Dnes kdyz ctu knizky o vecech jak najit sam sebe, jake je moje poslani, zakon pritazlivosti, tak je ve vetsine z nich pouzito tolik starych mot a hlasek. A vlastne i ty se siri diky socialnim mediim obrovskou rychlosti a muzou nam pomoci v kazde zivotni situaci. 

Ja mam to stesti a vy take, ze dneska uz muzeme konecne pochopit, proc se urciti lide chovaji jistym zpusobem, proc se nekdo chova spatne, slovne ublizuje nebo treba necha nekde na Instagramu negativni komentar. Kdyz se clovek narodi, narodi se cisty, bez predsudku nazoru ci strachu. To se bohuzel meni a jak deti rostou tak do urciteho veku, dejme tomu do nejakeho obdobi puberty nas opravdu hodne ovlivnuje nase blizke okoli, ktere nam predava sve predsudky, nazory a vzorce. A tak vznika uplne jina osoba, ktera si sebou nese ruzne bloky ulozene nekde v podvedomi, ktere ovlivni dalsi chod zivota a take to jak na urcite veci reaguje. A dalsi veci, kterou si clovek odnese jsou ruzne “mylne” nazory. To co je nam opakovano a vkladano, tomu jednoho dne zacneme verit a to pro nas bude ta nase pravda. A to ze o tom pisu neznamena, ze ja jsem perfektni. Jako kazdy mam sama co delat, ma spoustu bloku a take opakujicich se veci, ktere se mi budou porad dit, dokud neprijdu na to proc. 

A to me vede k tomu vysvetlit proc je tolik lidi na socialnich mediich negativni a proc nekdo zanechava takovy a takovy komentar. Kazdy z nich vlastne ukazuje sam sebe, predstavuje jejich prebrane nazory a stare vzorce a neni to nic jineho. Vy jim pouze nastavujete zrcadlo. Takze to co nekdo napise se vas vubec netyka. Jenom to vypovida o dane osobe a co si sebou z rannych let vzal. Kdyz vam jako diteti nekdo bude porad opakovat, ze kazdy bohac zbohatl zlodejinou a podvodem, tak uz tomu budete verit cely zivot. Kdyz vyrostete v prostredi, ze vek ma definovat to co nosite, tak tomu budete i verit. A tak na socialnich siti cirkuluje tolik ruznych nazoru, komentaru at uz pozitivnich ci negativnich, ale cokoli je vysloveno ci napsano vzdy jenom odrazi osobu, ktera to pise. Jak rika pan Jaroslav Dusek – Mne se to netyka. Sama s tim obcas bojuju a neni to jednoduche si to rict ve vsem pripadech, ale kdyz se opravdu zklidnite a zapremyslite o tom, zjistite, ze to tak opravdu je. A to je takova zprava pro ty, kterych se to tyka. Kdyz ma nekdo problem s tim, ze mate dalsi novou designerskou kabelku, neni to vas problem. Vy jste obraz v zrcadle a onen komentar je jenom odraz a tento odraz ma toho cloveka vest dal. Ma se zeptat sam sebe, proc mi to vadi, proc me toto chovani vyvadi z miry a neco s tim delat. 

Vsechno je proste jenom neci nazor, jejich vira a presvedceni a s vama to nema nic spolecneho. Kdyz vam nekdo rekne, ze jste hlupak, tak to svedci jenom neco o te dane osobne a vas se to netyka. Je to jenom nazor a vlastne pokud se dany clovek nerozhodne sam s tim neco udelat, vy moc nezmenite. Kazdy se musi rozhodnout sam. Je to o tom zit zivot v balancu, sirit dobro a lasku a prestat soudit ostatni. Verte mi, ze je to obrovska prace a takova nekonecna cesta. Ja mam treba tyden, kdy si vedu dobre a pak se mi stane neco a mam treba hodne negativni den, ktery me strhne zpet na spatnou cestu. A prestoze ctu knihy na toto tema, i ja jsem ovlivena vzorci z detstvi. Jedno je ale jasne, ze to co o vas nekdo rika s vama nema co delat. Takze kdyz vam nekdo rekne ci napise, ze jste materialista, hlupak, tlusty, stari nebo cokoli je to jejich vnimani sveta. Nejste to vy, ale oni…..

Obcas se taky zaseknu a kdyz mi nekdo napise nazor, ktery treba nevnimam podobne, ci mi nekdo zanecha negativni komentar. Ale nastesti mam svou nejlepsi kamaradku a ta mi vzdy pripomene jak to vlastne je. Pokazdne mi rekne neco tak trefneho, ze musim ten komentar hodit za hlavu i kdybych nechtela. Hlavni veci je, ze vam predhazovana negativita na internetu se vas proste netyka. 

Eva 

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3 Charlotte Tilbury Lipstick You Will Love

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This has to be one on my favourite lipsticks ever if not the most favourite. I bought it few years ago and it was my first ever lipstick by Charlotte Tilbury. I still love it the same. To be frank the whole collection of the Matte Revolution range has got so much to offer. This shade is stunning and in my eyes works perfect for day and night. It has been inspired by Grace Kelly and pinky coral shade creates perfect, neutral yet colourful lips to compliment variety of outfits.

Tento odstin musi byt snad moje nejoblibenjsi rtenka. Byla to moje prvni rtenka od Charlotte Tilbury, kterou jsem si sama pred par lety koupila. A mam ji rada stale stejne. A vubec cela kolekce Matte Revolution ma nekolik krasnych odstinu. Tento odstin je inspirovany Grace Kelly a je to takova kombinace koralove a ruzove barvy. Co mam na ni uplne nejradsi je to, ze se hodi na den i vecer. Nosim ji casto v kabelce, protoze je takovy odstin, ktery vam dam jistotu a neslapnete s nim vedle. 

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Can Influencers Still Create Something New On Social Media?

The world of digital influencers is like a bubble. Girls and boys posing for that immaculate picture and the bar has been set so high that we can barely see it these days. The blogging content moved from pictures from your garden which mum took to photoshopped professionally taken shots from the hotspots like LA, Santorini, Finland and you can name it all.

And the pool of influencers is growing every day and I am thinking how is it even possible. As it is very very hard work. I have been doing this for years and pretty much previously I had always two jobs and now I am a mom so I have two jobs again. And whilst others were having fun I was there after work, weekends creating content so I can publish a post every day. That is some level of commitment. Sometimes I admire the quality of content I see out there as it does not come easy. No matter what anybody says it is bloody hard work.

The question is can any of us create anything new? They always say yes there is a room for a new influencer (of course there is) but you have to bring something new. It has to be interesting taste, point of view, new voice. I am always thinking but I thought the market is covered for that. We have the glamorous girls, the mums, the fabulous writers, we have the awesome travel bloggers that can take better shots on their travels than Mario Testino for Vogue Cover, we have the fun girls from next door and I can think of so many other examples in my head.

One advice the top people in this industry would tell you is to stay yourself. And then you just keep coming across almost identical feeds on Instagram. That is clearly not staying yourself or am I wrong? I feel the problem may be that once some people see certain strategy works for one they apply it to their content in the hopes to achieve the same level of success. And then we end up having thousands of similar images, captions, outfits and just simply everything. Those people that found something unique for example their image editing, how they pose, how they write at early stages of blogging are flying now.

A great example of unique and new still exists though. A good example would have to be the Triplets. They only started recently and their engagement is up in the sky. I do not blame the world with being obsessed with them as I am myself. I mean common identical triplets that are gorgeous and have fantastic view of beauty and how they take their images.  But what about those solo people like myself what can the rest bring to table that does not exist yet?

I really wish I had more straightforward answer. I just look at it from a different point of view. There are apparently 800 million users of Instagram and even if we would say 50 % of those are active accounts there is a massive pool of people to find what they like. I simply believe that staying yourself is the key as only then you can offer the unique side of you (and there is nobody like you) and there will always be people that love that. You may not have immaculate images and still make it in the industry. It could be how you curate your Instagram stories, it could be your amazing hair, your fitness routine. There has to be a big group of people that can relate and love that. It is now just them to find you and that is in the hands of Universe.

Svet influenceru je takova nase bublina, mame svuj svet a tam proste jsme. Holky a kluci po celem svete pozuji jako o zivot, at maji zase dalsi dokonalou fotografii na instagram a uroven se zvedla tak vysoko, ze uz neni ani mozne jit vyse (nebo snad ano)? Blogovani se posunulo o velky kus z dob, kdy se holky fotily u plotu na zahrade a dnes vidime profesionalne nafocene fotografie z popularnich a luxusnich mist jako LA, Santorini, Finsko a vubec vsechna mista, ktera jsou momentalne in.

A ta nase bublina se pekne rozrusta kazdy den, az si rikam jestli je to mozne. To chce byt opravdu kazdy bloger? Ono je to totiz moc prace, ja to delam roky a pamatuju si kolik jsem tomu obetovala, hodne driny a zadny volny cas. Zatimco nekdo paril nekde na party, ja pripravovala o vikendech a po vecerech clanky na cely tyden. To uz je nejaka obet. Obcas se koukam kolem a rikam si klobouk dolu lidi, protoze ty obsahy jsou tak dokonale a to neni jenom tak. 

Otazkou je, zda muzeme jeste prinest neco noveho? Pokazde kdyz padne otazka, zda ma cenu jeste zacinat, tak kazdy rika ano ( a myslim, ze ano), ale za tim vam vetsina odpovi, ze musite prinest neco noveho. Ale co to vubec je? Je jeste neco, co nebylo pokryto a co svet influenceru nenabidl? A pokud to ono existuje, co to je? Mame dokonale holky, mame holky od vedle s kteryma je sranda, mame mamy blogerky, uzasne travel blogery, kteri dokazou zachytit svet kolem na fotografii lepe nez Mario Testino obalku na Vogue. Napada me tolik veci, ktere uz v nasem svete najdete v nekolika klonech. 

Vetsina lidi, kteri jsou v teto oblasti neuspesnejsi vam reknou, ze klic uspechu je v tom byt sam sebou. Coz se mi trosku nejde dohromady s faktem, ze Instagram je zaplaveny tim samym obsahem. Myslim, ze kdyz jeden influencer vidi, ze urcity styl psani a fotek prinasi tem ostatnim uspech, daji se tim stejnym smerem za vidinou stejneho uspechu. A ti kteri opravdu zacali hned v pocatku s necim novym jsou dnes za vodou. 

Ale misto pro nove veci tady urcite je a porad najdete nove unikatni veci. Jako dobry priklad mi prijdou the Triplets. Jsou to jednovajecne trojcata, ktere zacaly teprve nedavno, myslim, ze rok a pul zpet a dari se jim skvele. Ale vubec svet socialnich medii v tomto pripade chapu, jsou krasne, jsou to trojcata a maji skvely cit pro krasu. Jsou proste cool a samotnou me bavi. Ale co solo influenceri jako treba ja? Muzeme prinest neco noveho, jineho, neokoukaneho? 

Ja se na to zacinam divat trosku jinak, ze misto je tu opravdu pro vsechny. Instagram ma udajne 800 milionu uzivatelu a i kdyby jenom pulka byla aktivni, je to porad obrovske mnozstvi lidi a kazdy ma rad zcela jine veci. Nemusite mit avatarove fotografie a posledni model od Diora. Treba mate zajimave Insta stories, nebo lidi zaujme vas zivotni pribeh, pohled na svet nebo jenom vase vlasy. Takze pokud opravdu budete sami sebou (jenom tak se muzete odlisit od odstatnich), existuje spousta lidi, kterym se bude vase tvorba libit. Je to jenom otazka toho, aby si k vam nasli cestu a to je asi v rukou Vesmiru. 

Eva x

5 Ways how to get over January Blues

 

Wearing: Shoes: Isabel Marant, Skirt: Revolve, T-Shirt: Balmain 

January can be one of the most depressing month. I remember those times when I had to return to the office after Christmas and everybody around was miserable. You just keep bumping into grumpy people in the streets and everybody on the morning train has a sour face on. People used to talk about how much they have to save in January as they splurged on Christmas fun. Nobody was really going out, drinking or doing anything interesting. Well, let’s face it the holiday eating habits are really out of order so it is probably natural that people want to have fresh start and detox a bit. And they also have to watch their spending.

And all of this in a combination with cold weather can result in a very dull month. It is a very long month, holiday fun is over and spring is still far away. I really get all of this however it does  not have to be like that even if your budget is small. So I thought we all need a bit of motivation and few tips how to survive January blues.

Dress Well

There has been a lot of research done how clothes and what you wear is connected to your confidence and your emotions. Just imagine yourself even now wearing a well fitted suit or pyjamas and doing a pitch to somebody. Two different outfits can change everything but mainly your confidence and how you feel. It is ok to wear comfortable clothes but if you slip too often and just say you stay in pyjamas because you feel rubbish it is not leading anywhere. So each time you want to grab that oversized jumper and leggings maybe think twice and pick that glamorous blouse instead.

Look after your body 

If you look after your body it will thank you sooner or later. The first thing most of us tend to do when we do not feel great is to grab a bar of chocolate or another type of comfort food. However, if you eat nutritious food and keep up with the balanced diet you can even manage your moods. And if you add bit of exercise that is even better. And looking after yourself also means to get good night sleep and meditate. Everything works well in moderation so even if you are motivated to lose few pounds do not overdo it.

Do things you love

I know it is January but there has to be at least one thing you can do even on a small budget. You can go for a long walk with a friend and make a cup of coffee at home, you can watch great TV series, finally get that book you wanted to read, go swimming, meet other people or treat yourself to a manicure. I have always loved the idea of having my girlfriends over and do a beauty night in with some pop corn, Neflix and face masks. It is a great way how to keep some social life going even if you overspend during December.

Make plans

January is a great month to plan the whole year, set goals, book holidays and write down your dreams that with a bit of work and luck and planning can come true. Imagine if you actually do book your holidays during this super long winter month. That must cheer up even the most miserable person. Or at least I hope so.

Organise your home/Change decor

If you like to feel productive you can always work on your interior at home. How about to update decor in the living room or bedroom. Your surroundings should make you feel good when you spend lot of time there especially during winter months. There are still lot of sales around so if you grab a different paint or a nice throw with cushions that are on sale you can easily bring a bit of glamour to your house too.

So let’s try this and make sure we feel great even in January. No point to cry, moan and feel bad just because it is winter month and not much is going on. It is about what we do and how we make it.

Leden byva casto jeden z nejvic depresivnich mesicu. Moc dobre si pamatuju, kdyz jsem jeste pracovala v kancelari jak byli lidi mrzuti, unaveni a porad si jenom stezovali. Kazdy musel setrit, protoze utratil vse na Vanoce a Novorocnich oslavach. A kazdy se rozhodl hubnout, zahajit detox a cvicit. A tak nikdo nechtel nic podnikat, nic delat a vubec nalada byla kazdy rok pod psa. Ranni cesta metrem byla prehlidka kyselych obliceju a prichod do prace nebyval o moc lepsi. 

A tohle vse spolu s pocasim ma za to, ze Leden byva povazovany za takovy ponury a nudny mesic. Ale ono to tak nemusi byt a to i presto, ze chcete opravdu setrit. A tak jsem se rozhodla sepsat par tipu jak s touto mrzutou naladou zatocit. 

Hezky se oblecte

Ne nadarmo se rika, ze obleceni dela cloveka. Cetla jsem uz nekolik clanku, ktere tvrdi, ze pruzkumy dokazuji, ze spravne zvolene obleceni muze zvysit vykonost cloveka a take jeho sebevedomi. A neco na tom bude, protoze si treba predstavte, ze delate pohovor po telefonu a jeden v obleku a druhy v pyzamu. Ja si teda myslim, ze ten v obleku by asi dopadl lepe. Neni samozrejme nic spatneho na tom si dat pohodlne obleceni a leden provalet na gauci u televize, ale pokud chcete opravdu zatocit s depresemi, mozna zacnete tim, ze se hezky oblecete a treba nalicite.

Starejte se o sve telo a mysl

Vetsina z nas sahne po necem sladkem prave v tom momentu, kdy nam neni hej. To asi neni to nejlepsi reseni ( i kdyz to sama nechci slyset), protoze je to prave vyvazena strava, ktera nas dokaze ovlivnit a ma za to, ze se citime lepe. A kdyz si k tomu jeste alespon trosku zacvicite, budete meditovat, vase telo vam urcite podekuje. Mezi starani se o sebe take patri kvalitni spanek a proto to nemusite prehanet a nutit se do neceho extremniho. Jak se rika vseho s mirou.

Delejte veci, co mate radi

Existuje tolik veci, ktere muze clovek podniknout a nebude ho to stat majlant. Co treba prochazka s kamaradkou a misto kavy nekde v kavarne si ji muzete udelat doma? Muzete si udelat zkraslovaci den v pohodli domova, sledovat oblibene filmy ci serialy, konecne si precist nejakou skvelou knizku  a nebo usporadat takovy vecer s kamaradkama, kdy si udelate pletove masky, nalakujete si nehty a pustite si prijemnou hudbu. A pokud nechcete opravdu v lednu pit, muzete vino nahradit vyzivnou smoothie a udelat si treba takovy wellness zkraslovaci vecer.

Planujte

Zacatek noveho roku je nejlepsi doba na to si planovat, stanovit si cile a nebo treba zrovna objednat dovolenou. Je to cerstvy start pro vsechny z nas a takova pomyslna doba na to si planovat sve sny na dalsi rok. A kdyz treba ulovite ve sleve dobrou dovolenou, tak to snad potesi i toho nejvetsiho mrzouta. Ma se totiz pak na co tesit. A depresivni mesic leden pak s vama nemuze zamavat.

Zorganizujte si domov a venujte se interieru

Mit pekny a pohodlny domov je take klicem ke spokojenosti. Ja osobne miluju odpoledne po velkem uklidu, protoze se ve svem dome citim zkratka lepe. Co tak vyuzit zimnich slev a treba si vase bydleni trosku zutulnit. A nemusite se poustet do velkych projektu. Staci treba vybrat novou barvu, koupit pekny prehoz a polstare nebo preorganizovat nabytek. Ja take miluju udelat ocistu ve skrini a ve vecech vubec.

Takze hlavu vzhuru a preju vam co nejprijemnejsi mesic. Je to asi vse o tom jak si to zaridime a nastavime. 

Eva