I am the type of person that has got huge inner drive to be constantly doing something. I am always on the go, always filling free time with some activity and I find it very difficult to just switch off. I almost feel guilt if my day isn’t productive. I can say I rarely have days when I can say I did nothing. To me doing nothing is really is doing nothing…reading books, watching favourite TV show, having bath, pamper day and so on. However even on those days I always realise I did a lot whether that is work around the house or anything blog related. And I need to constantly find ways to justify why is it ok to have a lazy day and here is why…
Balance is important – Keeping things in balance is important in most areas of our lives. You know it – balance, jing & jang, extremes are not good. So keep balance in between relaxation and work.
Other people do that so can you – Every time I feel guilty again about taking things easy I think about other people and that we all do it sometimes.
Do not force it – Yes sometimes we need to push ourselves for example when going to gym however from my experience if I am tired or not motivated forcing it does not end up well. You do not work as well and the result is not great either.
Tomorrow is another day – If I decide to rest one day I have so much more energy following day that I manage huge amount of work and the quality is great.
Love yourself – Loving yourself means also listening to your body and taking time off.
Jsem typ clovek, ktery ma vnitrni motivaci a nedokazu vetsinu dni zastavit. Musim porad neco delat, jsem rada produktivni a dokonce citim pocit viny, kdyz mam takovy uvolnenejsi a liny den. Nedokazu si pomoci, ale vycitky se casto dostavi. Jsem ten typ, ktery si pise seznam kazde rano s tim, co chci udelat a kdyz nezvladnu vsechno na na seznamu, docela tezce se s tim vyrovnanam. A tak take casto hledam ruzne duvody, abych se presvedcila, ze i takove dny jsou treba a klidne jich muze byt vic po sobe. A prisla jsem na tohle. Priste az si to budu vycitat, tak si prectu tento clanek :)
Balanc je dulezity – Balanc je dulezity ve vsech oblastech nasich zivotu a tak i balanc mezi odpocinkem a praci! Vyvazenost je tou nejlepsi cestou. Znate to jing a jang, vseho s mirou, rovnovaha….
Delaji to ostatni tak proc ne vy – Tolik lidi v mem okoli ma dny, kdy zkratka vypnou. I prolezeny den u knizky a prochazky v prirode jsou treba.
Neni dobre se nutit silou – obcas je dobre prekonat lenost, ale kdyz vam telo rika stop, musite poslechnout. Rika se, ze kazdy den se ma zit tak jako by byl ten posledni, tak proc se hnat neustale, aby bylo udelano to ci ono. A uz se vam nekdy stalo, ze kdyz se opravdu nutite, tak vysledek neni moc dobry? LOL urcite to znate.
Zitra je taky den – Moje zkusenost je, ze kdyz si opravdu lenosim, tak dalsi den mam tolik energie, ze stihnu dvojnasobek a ve velke kvalite.
Sebelaska je dulezita – Sebelaska je dulezita a to znamena, ze budete poslouchat sve telo a date mu vse co je treba a to i den volna.
Growing up I remember stories about models and about how they are trying to harm each other and put nails in other girls shoes? And I thought is that really true? Are they so blinded with competition they would hurt others in such pathetic way? I have never been a high fashion constantly booked out model but I have done commercial work, was going round castings in London too and the truth is I never came across anything like that. Lot of my friends are still in modelling industry and although you hear some stories you also see friendships…I am talking strong friendships for life. These girls support each other, they are now married and some sadly divorced and some with children and they help each other in tough times but still share the happy moments in their life. They are true friends and that is not on the merit of number of likes, type of jobs they were working but based purely on their qualities, what they love and how they are.
In lot of ways I always compare modelling to blogging. There are so many similarities I can think of but is it similar with friendships? I personally love hanging out with other bloggers, I love to chat about what we have in common and that is fashion and beauty. I have met some amazing people thanks to what I do and I am grateful for that. Do I have friends in blogging? Yes. However from some strange reason some friendships in this industry come and go which also can be natural in life too. I believe people come to your life for a specific reason. You are meant to teach them something or they teach you something. Some friends can come for short periods and some stay your friend for years. I simply believe once the lesson is over the friendship can naturally goes away. And there is nothing wrong with that it is a natural way of life and karma.
I heard some awful stories about friendships in blogging however I want to stick to stay positive so do not want to go to detail about it. I tell you where I stand and how I see it. I believe blogging is like any other industry yes you can have friends but you also remain to be professional, you network and you build up your network further. It is natural, there is always part of business in this. If you name any industry whether that is film, fashion, law, advisory, venture capital etc. people know their “competitors” they can have business meetings, they meet at networking events as they know they can all benefit from each other in many ways even if it is only expanding on their market knowledge. They are able to talk about latest trends in their field, they are able to have a small talk and get on. And that is important.
So I believe there are some friendships but also lot of business “transactions” going on in blogging. And that is also fine as you simply would have tons of friends and friendship needs a bit of love and maintenance. You have to invest in real friendships and treasure it and you simply could not do it with everybody. There are apparently 505 million blogs based on figures from 2018 so that clearly shows you cannot maintain so many good quality friendships. We all can remain professional though and keep this industry going in the right direction so there are no ugly “friendship” stories, there are no users, no victims and hate. If anybody wants to see this more as a business that is OK too but we can still support each other.
Kdyz jsem vyrustala, hrozne jsem obdivovala modelky a uz v nejakych deseti jsem si strasne prala take byt ta kraska, ktera brazdi mola. Neptejte se proc, nejak vnitrne to tam zkratka bylo. Na druhou stranu me uz v brzke puberte sokovaly pribehy o zasti modelek a o tom jak si navzajem nechavaji hrebiky v botach. Je to ale vubec pravda? Dnes premyslim, zda by nekdo byl tak ubohy, aby ublizil jenom kvuli tomu, ze citi konkurenci. Ja jsem nikdy nebyla zadna top modelka, spise komercni prace bokem a obrazeni nejednoho castingu v Praze a v Londyne, ale uprimne jsem se osobne s nicim takovym nesetkala. Spousta mych kamaradek stale pracuji jako modelky a muzu rict, ze maji mezi sebou pratelstvi tak silna, ze by mohl kdekdo zavidet. Pratelstvi, ktere zaruci, ze vas ten druhy podrzi v tezke situaci, ale take se spolu zasmejte tak, ze se valite po zemi. A nejsou to pratelstvi zalozena na poctu lajku nebo na tom, kdo pracoval pro jakou znacku. Jsou to pratelstvi zalozena na sympatiich a charakteru cloveka.
V hodne aspektech mi blogovani pripomina modeling a vidim spousty podobnosti. Ale jak je to v blogovani se skutecnym pratelstvim? Ja osobne se rada vidam s blogerkama, protoze mame hodne spolecneho, vasen pro modu a kosmetiku a tak je casto o cem si povidat. Mam pratele v oboru? Ano mam….ale nejak mam pocit, ze pratelstvi mezi blogery prichazi a casto i odchazi. Nevim proc, ale byla jsem svedkem pratelskych vztahu, kdy bez sebe kamaradky nemohly byt pomalu ani vterinu az se neco stalo a ted se treba ani nepozdravi. Jak je to mozne? Ja osobne verim v tom, ze lidi prichazi do naseho zivota z nejakeho duvodu, bud se mame neco naucit od nich, nebo mi mame naucit neco je. A kdyz je lekce u konce, muze zkoncit i pratelstvi. A neni treba se za to nejak trestat, je to prirozeny kolobeh zivota a karmy.
Za tu dobu co bloguju, jsem slysela silene pribehy o druhych blogerkach, ale vzdy rikam, ze chci tento blog vest pozitivnim smerem a tak nebudu zachazet do detailu. Spis chci rict muj nazor. Ja verim, ze blogovani je jako kazdy jiny obor. Ano muzete najit pratele, ale hlavni je dulezite zustat profesional, udrzovat networking a take si budovat kontakty. Je to prirozene a i blogovani je business. Kdyz se zamyslite jak to maji jine obory, je to stejne..co treba film, prava, moda, poradenstvi, venture capital…vsichni profesionalove z oboru znaji alespon par lidi od konkurence, schazi se a ziskavaji neco jeden od druheho, i kdyby to byla treba jen znalost trhu. Kazdy vi, ze tyto znamosti vam vzdy mohou neco prinest.
A opravdu verim, ze nejaka skutecna pratelstvi existuji, ale neni jich tolik jak je nam predhazovano na socialnich mediich. V blogovani je hodne takovych “business transakci” a to je take v poradku. Je to normalni vec ve vsech oborech. Nejde byt opravdovy kamarad se vsema ( i kdyz nam to nekteri na socialnich mediich takto maluji). Opravdove pratelstvi neco stoji a je treba dost casu a spoustu lasky. Podle udaju z roku 2018 je na svete 505 milionu blogu a tak uz chapete, ze je nemozne byt kamarad se vsema. Co je ale dulezite je vest svet blogovanim spravnym smerem, zachovat profesionalitu, podporovat se, at uz se nikdo z nas nemusi dozvidat o vice “osklivych” blogerskych pratelstvich.
The PR world is such a dynamic industry and everybody working in this area needs to keep up to date with new things coming up, keeping the relationships going, keeping fresh market knowledge and keeping on top of things. And I bet it is not easy at all especially when the leadership has no clue about PR techniques or are not open to use digital influencers and any new PR techniques. I was thinking about this all the other day and realised that us influencers can be actually such a good source of knowledge to any PR individual out there.
We influencers gather market knowledge by talking to each other, brainstorming, coming up with strategies for our own websites and social channels. We work pretty much 24/7. Most of us have been doing this for years, went through different transformations and learnt by trial and error whilst for some press and communications professionals this can be a brand new world. I feel myself I have also learnt so much during my career in recruitment/sales and there are so many things I can apply in what I do. Whether it is ability to sell something, networking, negotiate. There is honestly so much. At the end of the day without sales there would be hardly any business going on. I have seen it so many times that the people that are reward the most are those who can sell. It is amazing if you have that amazing technical person that can solve problem but If you have nobody to solve that problem for you are stuck. And other influencers perhaps learn a lot from their previous jobs too. You never know what it is we can offer.
Use our market knowledge – Most of us spend hours and hours on social media, we meet, we talk, we research as it is part of what we do. You as a PR specialist do that as well however you also do tons of other things and probably look at different aspects of everything. I like to understand what different brands are doing for their campaigns, what influencers they are using and why. It helps me to get an idea about the strategy of that particular brand. As this all helps me to get to know the brand and figure out if my brand is a match for them. I also love to come out with ideas who may be suitable for the brand. I have no problem to recommend people who may be suitable for certain job. I have been doing it pretty much at most meetings. My contacts may discover somebody truly amazing and I feel good about it. So I would always recommend to ask us. Ask us about who, what, when and why? You never know what you can learn.
Utilize our ideas – There are so many brands that have a vision and they do not want to go outside of this. They give you scripted plan of the project and you have to fit in that box. Going back to my recruitment days I would call it fit us exactly in the job spec. Why not to be more flexible? Listen to our ideas as we are the creative crowd and maybe there could be other ways how to attract new potential buyers for the brand, increase sales or awareness of the brand. We may even have suggestions for venues, type of events, how to collaborate or how to boost the awareness for the brand.
Meet us – This obviously isn’t something you learn from us but by meeting us you can create relationship and you help us to understand your brand more and you understand us and our brand. It is crucial in any business relationship. Nothing is as efficient and effective over emails or phone as meeting face to face. That has always been rule during my career in sales. And I know PR world is busy and demanding however if you find that time you can learn new things from us, understand us, get ideas. Any influencer will always create better content if they know the brand well rather than reading some scripted brief for collaboration. I am always keen to meet face to face as it is the best way how to develop understanding and good relationship with the brand.
Listen to us and let us listen to you – During my career in sales I have been told every day that listening is the most important part. By listening you get to the point of the problem and then you can offer solution. Good listening skills are one of the best things in any relationship and in life. You understand more each other, you communicate and you find solutions together just by good listening. I always laugh at that old drawing which is a joke showing client brief and client’s budget…And it reminds me so much when influencers trying to explain to PR professionals yes we can create what you want but we also need budget for it and time for it. We need to pay other people to help us to create X,Y,Z and if we do not have the budget there is no certainty of what our Instagrams husband can deliver for “free” LOL.
Like us try to keep up with all the platforms – This is tough even for me so I cannot imagine how on earth could all PR manage this effectively however to understand any influencer’s work and understand if they are the right fit you should be able to follow all of their platforms. Hard I know…However I try to do it as an influencer and follow people across variety of platforms…you honestly discover so many new things. Some people show totally different content on their Youtube and their Instagram stories can be more personal whilst their feed is focused on luxury. Only by following all platforms you can determine the suitability of the individual. You may even discover that in the end you only want to collaborate with them via Instagram stories or twitter. If you focus on one you may miss certain things. You can understand the whole package only if you look at the influencer’s brand in more complex way. Somebody can have a dreamy Instagram feed but swear a lot on their stories and you may realise they are no good for your high end classic old school brand.
Give us a chance/Be open minded – As an influencer I get approached by brands a lot (very grateful for that) and I try to be open-minded and give everybody a chance. Not every time it is the right fit for me but just because it is a small start up I will not discount them. Everybody starts somewhere and I look at the potential. I would say brands should be the same and not to look just at numbers, sales and engagement. Look at all aspects of bloggers with smaller following. What is their content like, what is their potential, what could they do for us as a brand? It is important to be able to balance things out. I work with smaller and less known brands and also big brands. It is very hard to decide sometimes trust me and it must be the same for PR however mixing things is up can bring positives. Try to bring new influencers on board, bring them on a trip, invite them to event. It again reminds me so much from my career in sales. Big corporate hiring several agencies and mixing the well established agencies with huge databases and the smaller new niche agencies with maybe three employees. They all have different things to offer. And eventually in few years that niche one can become huge anyway.
So let’s help each other out, let’s learn together and be open-minded. Many exciting things and great relationships are ahead of us.
Svet PR je velmi dynamicky, neustale prichazi nove veci a vsichni, kdo pracuji v tomto oboru se musi ucit, prizpusobovat novym zmenam a udrzovat sve znalosti. A to urcite neni jednoduche. Nejhorsi situace nastava, kdyz vedeni nevi nic o digitalnich influencerech a je to pro ne neznamy svet a PR se je snazi presvedcit, ze tohle je ta spravna strategie. Obcas profesionalum v tomto oboru opravdu nezavidim. Nastesti jsou tu influenceri, kteri maji za tech nekolik let, co tuhle praci delaji urcite znalosti a proc je tedy nevyuzit. Myslim si, ze kazdy PR profesional muze cerpat od nas hodne informaci a znalosti a posouvat se tak dale.
My se ucime tim, ze komunikujeme mezi sebou a je to nase kazdodenni prace. Resime strategii, mame prehled o ostatnich v branzi a ucime se tim, ze zkousime veci, ktere bud funguji nebo ne. Vetsina z nas bloguje leta a prizpusobejeme se zmenam a novinkam, ktere neustale prichazi. Ja mam i pocit, ze jsem se naucila hodne veci diky me predchozi praci v oblasti naboru a personalistiky. Jednou z nejdulezitejsich veci ve spouste oborech je totiz umeni prodat. Je skvele, kdyz je nekdo technicky dobry, ale kdyz nemate komu prodat vase napady a nevite jak je prodat, tak je vam to k nicemu. Naucila jsem vyjednavat a take networking. To jsou vsechny veci dulezite nejen v oblasti prodeje, ale temer vsude. A proto nikdy nevite, co vam muze dany influencer poradit. A co se od nas muzete teda naucit?
Vyuzijte nase znalosti trhu – Vetsina z nas travi hodiny na socialnich medii, potkavame se, resime nasi praci a je to soucasti naseho denniho programu. PR to samozrejme delaji taky, je to jejich prace byt na Instagramu, ale maji bohuzel i dalsi zalezitosti a pro nektere muzou byt nektere veci uplnou novinkou. A tak se nebojte vyuzit nasich znalosti. Ja travim na socialnich hodne casu, protoze me zajimaji veci jako jakou maji firmy strategii, kdo na cem pracuje, co se zmenilo, jake trendy zacinaji v urcite oblasti. Osobne nemam na schuzkach problem doporucit PR ostatni influencery, ktere si myslim, ze jsou vhodni pro danou znacku. A tak se nas nebojte zeptat na cokoli..at uz je to tip na influencera, jak usporadat akci, co ted frci…
Vyuzijte nase napady – Existuje tolik firem, kteri prijdou s napadem a snazi se influencery strcit do te jejich vize a krabicky, ale co kdyz to neni idealni reseni, co kdyz ma onen bloger treba zajimavejsi napad, pohled na vec a treba zrovna ta muze mit vetsi efekt? Zkuste byt vice flexibilni. Naslouchejte nasim napadum, protoze treba zrovna ty mohou pomoci k vetsim prodejum ci lepsi reklame.
Seznamte se s nama tvari v tvar – To neni teda neco, co vas muzeme naucit, spise chci rict, ze osobni schuzka vam vzdy prinese nejvice. Emaily ani telefon nemaji silu osobni schuzky. Jenom tak skutecne muzete poznat nas a my vasi znacku. Behem me kariery v naboru jsem tohle slysela denne a je to pravda, jakmile jsem klienta pozvala na obed, vse slo lepe. Lepe jsem hledala ty spravne lidi a dokazala lepe prodat potencialnim zamestnancum to ci ono. Behem osobni schuzky zjistite nejvice, vse dukladne proberete a poznate se. Dokonce bych rekla, ze to cloveka motivuje a je to profesionalni pristup.
Naslouchejte a nechte nas naslouchat – Behem me predchozi prace jsem zjistila, ze nejvetsi prodejni tajmestvi spociva v tom, ze umite naslouchat. Jenom tak dokazete vse analyzovat tak, ze nasledne dokazete najit problem a nabidnout reseni. Kdyz opravdu poslouchate, co je receno, vice si rozumite, budujete kvalitnejsi vztahy a je to opravdu dulezity aspekt v jakemkoli vztahu. Obcas si behem schuzek vzpomenu na takovy vtip, ktery jsem jednu dobu vidala hodne, je to kresleny v tip, kdy klient ma urcite predstavu, da vam zadani, ale rozpocet takovy, ze to neni mozne docilit. Casto od nas firmy ocekavaji dokonaly obsah, ale ten neco stoji. Kdyz je predstava hodne narocna, potrebuju zaplatit fotografa, najat misto na foceni a potrebuju cas. Pokud mi dana firma nezaplati nebo nezaplati dost, riskuje, ze jim nedodam, co si predstavuji. A proto poslouchejte co se vam snazime rict a budte dostatecne transparentni, at muzeme naslouchat my vam.
Sledujte vsechny nase platformy – Stejne jako vetsina influenceru sleduji vsechny platformy tech ostatnich, je to dobre k tomu, aby jste si udelali predstavu o jejich “znacce” (Az po case si vyselektuju, ktera platforma me bavi vice ci mene). Je to samozrejme casove velmi narocne, ale jenom tak muzete videt daneho influencera vice komplexne. Kazdy z nas muze mit uplne jiny obsah napriklad na youtube a nase stories mohou byt vice osobnejsi. Pokud si reknete, ze ma nekdo super Instagram a napriklad se nepodivate i na Twitter, insta-stories (kde dany mluvi jako dlazdic) nemuzete si byt jisti, ze ten bloger je vhodny prave pro vasi firmu. Ja jsem pred par lety zjistila, ze Stefano Gabbana sam odsouhlasuje kazdeho influencera a pak teprve da PR teamu sign off. Prochazi si jejich socialni site a platformy sam. Byla to pro me obrovska pocta, ze jsem prosla jeho sitem a take klobouk dolu, ze si na to udela cas. Takze i takovy lide si najdou cas, protoze je pro ne dulezite, kdo reprezentuje jejich znacku.
Dejte nam sanci a budte otevreni – Jako influncera me oslovuje hodne firem a moc si toho vazim. A snazim se dat vsem sanci a byt uprimna, kdyz si opravdu myslim, ze firma neni vhodna pro moji znacku. Ale chapu, ze kazdy nekde zacina, rada podporim mladou znacku, pokud se ke me hodi. Je dulezite videt potencial a drzet balanc. Ja jsem za celou dobu spolupracovala s mensima znackama i s velkyma. Je obcas velmi tezke se rozhodnout, ale udrzovat balanc je dulezite a muze casto prinest spoustu pozitiv. Vzpominam si dokonce i behem me kariery v naboru, ze je naprosto normalni zadat jednu praci nekolika rozlisnym firmam. Firmy jako velka ctyrka casto najimaly ty nejvetsi personalni agentury, co maji mega databaze, ale i mini firmy, kteri zamestnavaji treba dva tri lidi. A navic nikdo nevi, co se z te malicke firmy muze jednou vyklubat. A proto nemusite na sve press tripy brat jenom mega youtubery, ale dat sanci i mensim a zacinajicim influencerum, protoze nikdy nevite, co ten “novacek” dokaze. Cisla nejsou vsechno a je treba vzit v potaz obsah, kteri influenceri tvori, potencial a jine aspekty.
A tak si proste navzajem pomahejme, ucme se a cekaji nas uzasne veci a pevne vztahy.
Social media is quite new world. Yes it has been around for several years but it is not something people had centuries before. And that means spreading news and information is going faster than before. What people have always had was variety of behaviours, certain type of characters and understanding of good and bad. And even hundreds years ago we had wonderful leaders and philosophers that inspire the world even in these days. Thanks to them we now have incredible knowledge about balance of life, law of attraction, how to find what our purpose of life is. Those amazing quotes are now so much easier to spread thanks to media and social media and these days we are surrounded by knowledge gathered over many years. There are so many amazing books about things like law of attraction or about the path of your life.
And we are lucky and I am lucky as we now understand so much more about certain behaviour and why people act in a certain way whether that is a negative comment or their actions. As we come to this world and we grow up until early teen years we absorb everything that is being said, we absorb patterns from parents and close family, we create our own image of the world. Unfortunately during this period we create blocks that influence how we react to certain things for the rest of our lives and we can also subconsciously attract these things repetitively. And from a pure person that came to this world is now a brand new person full of prejudices and ideas that they gained based on their environment.
And that leads me to explaining why people would be negative in life or on social media. That explains those negative comments. It is people that absorbed certain patterns and created blocks during early years of their lives. The thing is it does not have to be just a negative comment but it can simply be an opinion. If you hear a lot as a child that rich people only got to their wealth by fraud you will assume that about most rich people, if you hear that age should define what you wear that is what you believe. We have ideas about money, looks, behaviours, food and everything you can think of. However, it does not mean that what was passed on to you is right. Somebody gave you that idea and it stuck and now millions of opinions and different points of view are circulating around social media and turning into negative comments, hate and more. Instead of spreading love, positive energy and joy we see total opposites.
What it means is that it is only somebody’s point of view and their beliefs and it has got nothing to do with you. It is that person’s personal view and there is not much they can do about that until they decided to change it themselves. We all can work on balancing our lives, spread only the good, stop being judgmental and trust me it is hard work. No matter how many books I read about this topic even I am influenced so much by things I was being told for years. Whatever somebody says about you or does to you has got nothing to do with you at all. It is them and their inner believes. So next time somebody tells you you are materialistic, stupid, ugly, fat, old or whatever it is. Remember, it is not you…it is them. You are only a mirror to them and that triggers their behaviour. If somebody has got an issue that some Youtuber bought another expensive bag it only shows something about that person commenting. It can be anything that they believe in and picked up during the years whether a thought that expensive bags are not achievable, that expensive things ruin character….whatever it is. You are the mirror and the comment is the reflection.
I am very lucky that when I forget this and a bad comment appears I discuss this with my best friend. She is such a smart person that she always reminds me of this and says always something so relevant that I cannot argue and always admit it has got nothing to do with me. The main thing is that negativity on social media has got nothing to do with you.
We all have the right to express and opinion but this is more message for those who receive or encounter negative situations, comments that it is has nothing to do with them.
Svet socialnich medii je docela nova zalezitost, ano uz par let je nasi soucasti, ale jako takovy neexistoval pred stovkami let. A diky tomuto svetu se dneska informace siri mnohem rychleji. Co tu ale bylo vzdy jsou lide ruzneho charakteru, ruzna chovani, ruzne nazory a take schopnost vnimat dobro a zlo. A kdyz se na to tak podivam tak po celou dobu pokazde existovali velmi chytri filozofove a vudci, kteri dokazali inspirovat a predavat svetu jejich znalost. Dnes kdyz ctu knizky o vecech jak najit sam sebe, jake je moje poslani, zakon pritazlivosti, tak je ve vetsine z nich pouzito tolik starych mot a hlasek. A vlastne i ty se siri diky socialnim mediim obrovskou rychlosti a muzou nam pomoci v kazde zivotni situaci.
Ja mam to stesti a vy take, ze dneska uz muzeme konecne pochopit, proc se urciti lide chovaji jistym zpusobem, proc se nekdo chova spatne, slovne ublizuje nebo treba necha nekde na Instagramu negativni komentar. Kdyz se clovek narodi, narodi se cisty, bez predsudku nazoru ci strachu. To se bohuzel meni a jak deti rostou tak do urciteho veku, dejme tomu do nejakeho obdobi puberty nas opravdu hodne ovlivnuje nase blizke okoli, ktere nam predava sve predsudky, nazory a vzorce. A tak vznika uplne jina osoba, ktera si sebou nese ruzne bloky ulozene nekde v podvedomi, ktere ovlivni dalsi chod zivota a take to jak na urcite veci reaguje. A dalsi veci, kterou si clovek odnese jsou ruzne “mylne” nazory. To co je nam opakovano a vkladano, tomu jednoho dne zacneme verit a to pro nas bude ta nase pravda. A to ze o tom pisu neznamena, ze ja jsem perfektni. Jako kazdy mam sama co delat, ma spoustu bloku a take opakujicich se veci, ktere se mi budou porad dit, dokud neprijdu na to proc.
Ato me vede k tomu vysvetlit proc je tolik lidi na socialnich mediich negativni a proc nekdo zanechava takovy a takovy komentar. Kazdy z nich vlastne ukazuje sam sebe, predstavuje jejich prebrane nazory a stare vzorce a neni to nic jineho. Vy jim pouze nastavujete zrcadlo. Takze to co nekdo napise se vas vubec netyka. Jenom to vypovida o dane osobe a co si sebou z rannych let vzal. Kdyz vam jako diteti nekdo bude porad opakovat, ze kazdy bohac zbohatl zlodejinou a podvodem, tak uz tomu budete verit cely zivot. Kdyz vyrostete v prostredi, ze vek ma definovat to co nosite, tak tomu budete i verit. A tak na socialnich siti cirkuluje tolik ruznych nazoru, komentaru at uz pozitivnich ci negativnich, ale cokoli je vysloveno ci napsano vzdy jenom odrazi osobu, ktera to pise. Jak rika pan Jaroslav Dusek – Mne se to netyka. Sama s tim obcas bojuju a neni to jednoduche si to rict ve vsem pripadech, ale kdyz se opravdu zklidnite a zapremyslite o tom, zjistite, ze to tak opravdu je. A to je takova zprava pro ty, kterych se to tyka. Kdyz ma nekdo problem s tim, ze mate dalsi novou designerskou kabelku, neni to vas problem. Vy jste obraz v zrcadle a onen komentar je jenom odraz a tento odraz ma toho cloveka vest dal. Ma se zeptat sam sebe, proc mi to vadi, proc me toto chovani vyvadi z miry a neco s tim delat.
Vsechno je proste jenom neci nazor, jejich vira a presvedceni a s vama to nema nic spolecneho. Kdyz vam nekdo rekne, ze jste hlupak, tak to svedci jenom neco o te dane osobne a vas se to netyka. Je to jenom nazor a vlastne pokud se dany clovek nerozhodne sam s tim neco udelat, vy moc nezmenite. Kazdy se musi rozhodnout sam. Je to o tom zit zivot v balancu, sirit dobro a lasku a prestat soudit ostatni. Verte mi, ze je to obrovska prace a takova nekonecna cesta. Ja mam treba tyden, kdy si vedu dobre a pak se mi stane neco a mam treba hodne negativni den, ktery me strhne zpet na spatnou cestu. A prestoze ctu knihy na toto tema, i ja jsem ovlivena vzorci z detstvi. Jedno je ale jasne, ze to co o vas nekdo rika s vama nema co delat. Takze kdyz vam nekdo rekne ci napise, ze jste materialista, hlupak, tlusty, stari nebo cokoli je to jejich vnimani sveta. Nejste to vy, ale oni…..
Obcas se taky zaseknu a kdyz mi nekdo napise nazor, ktery treba nevnimam podobne, ci mi nekdo zanecha negativni komentar. Ale nastesti mam svou nejlepsi kamaradku a ta mi vzdy pripomene jak to vlastne je. Pokazdne mi rekne neco tak trefneho, ze musim ten komentar hodit za hlavu i kdybych nechtela. Hlavni veci je, ze vam predhazovana negativita na internetu se vas proste netyka.
